When I started BATE: Raleigh, it wasn’t to be edgy — it was to fill a void. I wanted to create a space where men could come together, affirm their erotic energy, and not feel pressure to perform, impress, or hook up. Just be present.

Inspired by traditional Jacks clubs like Austin Jacks, Motor City Jacks, and NY Jacks, BATE: Raleigh follows a masturbation-only, men-only model grounded in mutual respect. The focus is on connection, not competition. A space for solo and group experiences — raw, real, and judgment-free.

I’ve spent time in traditional cruising spaces, and while they serve a purpose, they often feel rushed or performative. BATE: Raleigh offers something more intentional — pleasure is paced, the vibe is about camaraderie, not conquest.

Why masturbation-only?

It changes the room. There’s no need to “win” anyone over. It puts everyone on the same page, encourages body acceptance, and removes performance anxiety. It’s about being seen and accepted without expectations.

More than getting off

BATE: Raleigh isn’t just about getting off — it’s about community. Men walk in nervous and walk out confident. Strangers connect; first-timers become regulars. There’s something powerful about coming together in a space where pleasure isn’t hidden or shamed.

This is a space for men who are tired of pretending this part of themselves doesn’t matter. We’re here to express, not impress. As long as there’s a need, BATE: Raleigh will be here.