You don’t have to identify as gay to find your way to a BATE: Raleigh session. Straight men, curious men, and men who don’t label themselves at all — you’re welcome here.

One of the most common things we hear from first-timers: “I’m not gay, but I’ve always been curious about something like this.” And here’s the truth — masturbation doesn’t have a sexual orientation. It’s the most universal thing men do.

What makes BATE different

Unlike a hookup app or a bathhouse, BATE: Raleigh isn’t about finding a partner. It’s not about sexual performance. It’s about being in a room full of men who are all doing the same thing — stroking, relaxing, enjoying themselves — without the pressure to be anyone’s type or fulfill anyone’s expectation.

For straight-identified men, that means you can experience something new in a low-stakes environment. No one is trying to convert you, recruit you, or make you something you’re not. You define your experience entirely.

The vibe is different than you’d expect

Most guys walk in expecting it to feel like a gay sex club. What they actually find is… a room full of men who are focused on themselves. The energy is surprisingly relaxed. There’s heat, yes. But there’s also a lot of quiet. A lot of presence.

You might find yourself syncing up with the group. You might stay in your corner. Both are completely fine.

One rule that levels everything

Masturbation-only means no one is expecting anything from you beyond showing up and being yourself. That single rule removes the social hierarchy that exists in most sexual spaces. No one is more desirable than anyone else. Everyone is there for the same reason.

If you’ve been curious, this is a safe place to explore that curiosity on your own terms. Your orientation stays yours. Your experience stays yours.

Come as you are.